In a contemporary society such as ours, the male may see no need to make a permanent commitment. As far as they are concerned, there’s still enough time, and who knows? Someday they may find that ‘perfect soul mate’ and settle down, but in the meantime, they seem to be enjoying themselves. The reluctant partner may not want to reveal his reasons for refusing to commit. As a matter of fact, he may not be aware of them himself, but chances are they’ll fall into one or more of the following categories:
He doesn’t want to lose his freedom
It’s been proven over and over, that females mature earlier than males. Ladies are ready to settle down and raise a family while guys of the same age are hoping to explore or achieve more out of life and sometimes, it may be wise to leave and let him get on with it. If he doesn’t do it before marriage, he’ll do it during and that can lead to tragedy for everyone concerned.
He’s afraid to take responsibility
When a guy seems reluctant, it could also be that he’s just not ready for a wife, kids, house, and all the sacrifices that come with that kind of life. For instance, if he’s had a bad experience with a former relationship, he’s probably not anxious to experience the pain again. While some people eventually overcome such circumstances, others just never find it easy to let go.
He’s too selfish
Yes of course, there are some men in this category. He probably wants to travel, to have an expensive car and to do whatever he wants, whenever it suits him, without being answerable to anyone. This way, his partner is expected to wait on him hand and foot, with the hope that it will lead to a ring. However, it is unlikely this sort of guy will ever commit.
He has other responsibilities
Possibly, he may be looking after some sick, elderly parents or have huge child support payments to make. He may be putting younger siblings through school and feel that he can’t handle any more expenses at this time.
There is a serious difference between religion or culture
More often than not, members of two branches of the same Church denomination can unite pretty easily, but two more contrasting groups, such as a Catholic and a Muslim, or an atheist and an Evangelical Christian may be a recipe for trouble and he is smart enough to see it.
He’s afraid to disclose his real or perceived disability
He could be illiterate, sterile or carry the inherited gene for a very dangerous illness. Also, he may have a close relative with a severe physical or mental illness, for whom he’ll be fully responsible at some future time. There may be some personal or family secret which he feels is too horrible to share.
Courtesy of Geneveive Magazine.
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